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Chris said:
Not really..while I applaud you in the transformation confidence somewhat comes naturally to me. Just repeat good things about yourself in your head, develop a habit of actually feeling that way.
Sorry if it wasn’t much help, best of luck!!!
- 30 July 2010 at 2:28 pm
little_one said:
Actually the person above has given good advice, two minutes before you about to start talking say thing like i am a confident, beautiful smart girl, and you’ll act that way and in turn be preceived that way, i also admire your gusto, good luck, some ways of faking confidence to boost yourself temprarily include
-wearing bright colours
-wearing eyeliner
-excercise
-laughter (laugh as much as you can)
-smiling.
- 30 July 2010 at 2:30 pm
PEGGY S said:
Try reading some books on self esteem. You have good qualities other than your looks, by the way. The looks are just the icing on the cake!!! Good luck with your new image. There is never anything wrong with someone trying to keep themselves looking nice.
- 30 July 2010 at 2:41 pm
Lewis P said:
Dont wear outfits that make you look like a slag…thats not the way to. Just be outgoing…who cares what people think about you…if you Fcuk up then you are gone and never see that person again…they dont know you and you dont know them. You have a whole life ahead of you, why be worried about what people think. If you get flirted with then go with it, you must be pretty for people to do that…
…just enjoy life and everthing it throws at you!
- 30 July 2010 at 2:43 pm
Don Jose said:
Have an inviting smile/attitude…
- 30 July 2010 at 3:33 pm
Nibblet said:
all I hear in your question is that you are good looking, but you are afraid to talk to people, because you have no self esteem. That I feel in a nutshell is your problem. I think it is that you have no confidence in yourself. You don’t have to worry about how to present yourself if you are trying to make friends, if they like you, they will like you just the way you are. Stop trying to get a boyfriend, and stop trying to have an agenda, and just be yourself, and try to be friends FIRST… no expectations on yourself will make you feel more at ease, and there will be less pressure to act a certain “way”… good luck, you will do fine.
- 30 July 2010 at 4:26 pm
Casca said:
You need a small stockpile of positive experiences to build you some confidence.
First, keep a diary of the times you get hit on every day.
If you don’t already keep a diary, start one.
Second, change something. Anything. Taking control of your own appearance in a drastic way is empowering — that’s why so many people look so different, they like the feeling of confidence that control over their appearance gives them.
The moment after you do this, go out. Keep track, keep score of the heads you turn.
If you want, go somewhere you normally mix, and try to notice the change in people around you. As you look around watching for this change, appear confident and let your eyes twinkle.
Again, keep a diary of it.
- 30 July 2010 at 4:29 pm
covergirl said:
People see though you. No matter how you play up your looks, it wouldn’t matter if your pretty or whatever. Why don’t you work on yourself emotionally or at least intellectually.
- 30 July 2010 at 5:21 pm
mandy said:
its really all about how u feel on d inside..at least u realize u have a problem..u dnt have to see a shrink but u shud get out more…it doesnt matter wut guys comment cuz they will screw anythin that lays still for 5 min..its abt how u feel..it depends on how old u r…if ur old enough work it will help u feel better about urself…join clubs, charities etc..get out into the worl and do somethin..that should help ur self esteem..
hope u feel better.
- 30 July 2010 at 6:14 pm
entropiii said:
I had to really sort of “groom” my mind into developing an ego too when I was younger. Basically, I just tell myself every day how fabulous I am. I am smart, nice, funny, cute, silly, and I take care of myself. Not every guy is going to go for the same girl in a room because everyone has/likes different qualities. Its the same reason why your friends dont go for the same men. I had to ask myself, why not me? You say you would get flirted with even in sweats and things, so imagine how attractive you would be with the confidence added in? My Gramma used to say “fake it til you make it”, meaning even if you dont believe how gorgeous and fabulous you are, after telling yourself this for awhile, you really will believe it. Because its true in your own way. And I dont think you need councelling… just an ego boost. Practice this and practice taking and giving compliments to others (including women). It just makes you feel good, and you deserve it – and I think you know you do or you wouldnt be going thru all this trouble, am I right?
- 30 July 2010 at 7:01 pm
kooky said:
believe it or not, but i see girls all the time whom I think “why are men so attracted to them?”. Because i see them and don’t think they are that beautiful, but men flock to them. And i realize it is because they toss their hair, tilt their head, have good eye contact, straight posture, a nice smile on theirfaces, and a manner of speaking that shows they are interested in getting to know people. It finally takes me a long time to notice what they’re wearing or what their bodies look like.
appearance is important, it’s first impression, but if you’re next a woman with a great outfit on, and your is mediocre, but she’s not smiling and you are? you’ll be noticed first.
just have a good time and open up. Relax and realize that not everyone will like you, but it’s still great to be sociable! and to be you!
ask most guys and they just want ur hair to be brushed, long, your breath to smell good, and for you to have good skin, and a healthy overall look (this doesnt not mean skinny) they want effort, but not ridiculous effort.
- 30 July 2010 at 7:46 pm
alexluvkajol said:
Horse n chicken live in farmer’s farm. one day horse fell into a hole and shouted “Chicken! Help Me!’ Chicken then tied a rope around the farmer’s BMW and drove it next to the hole, tied it around Horse’s neck and drove the BMW and managed to pull Horse out. the next day, Chicken fell into da hole. Chicken told Horse to get the BMW, Horse said ‘I’ll just stretch over the hole, and you grab my xxxx and i’ma pull yu out.” They managed to do just that.
Moral of the story:
If you have an endowment the size of a horse, you don’t need a BMW to pick up chicks.
- 30 July 2010 at 8:29 pm
Baby Durward said:
I find you can gain confidence when you practise your skills and become really good at something or see a change. For example, sports, drawing, painting, photography, dancing, singing…etc…etc. Take a class in something you enjoy and become better at it. You can also meet new friends that way and be invited to more parties, hangouts and can meet some more guys to try out. Stop thinking of yourself negatively. Think positive. Good luck girl.
- 30 July 2010 at 9:02 pm
Aden Sickle said:
I short, 5’6″, and until a year ago I always had issue with my height. Well, I stumbaled across a game where the main character was exactly my height and he saves the world. Granted he is fictional, but his creator obviously didn’t think height matters, so I figured why should I? After that, I haven’t had anymore thoughts of wishing I were taller. My advice to you is to find a roll model.
- 30 July 2010 at 9:15 pm

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